How to sync two MySQL tables (on demand or via cron)

use mysqldump --opt <database> <tablename> to create a dump of your table and feed it to your new server. As you apparently have access to the remote database via TCP/IP, you simply could use

mysqldump --opt --user=<youruser> --password=<yourpassword> -host <yourhost> \
<yourDB> <yourtable> | mysql -u <newserveruser> -p<password>

to connect to the remote database, dump it and feed the output into your new server.

If you did not have direct TCP/IP access to the remote database, you still could do pretty much the same by tunneling the data through SSH after setting up public key authentication:

ssh -C -l <remoteuser> <remoteserver> \
'mysqldump --opt --user=<youruser> --password=<yourpassword> <yourDB> <yourtable>' \
| mysql -u <newserveruser> -p<password>

See the documentation to mysqldump and the man page for SSH for more details.

If you need more bandwidth efficiency, consider creating a dump with mysqldump, storing it on the source server and using rsync for copying/updating the counterpart on the destination server before importing. As rsync will create rolling checksums on the source and the destination file, it likely will not need to transfer most of the dump's contents on subsequent runs.

There has been a mysqldump patch which was meant to use temporary tables when inserting rows and rename the table afterwards to the original table name to reduce lock time, but I would consider it experimental as it has unresolved issues and never made it into the main branch. See this discussion for patch code and details.

If you simply can't drop the table on the destination for whatever reasons, you might insert the dumped data into a new table (a quick & dirty but somewhat unsafe approach would pipe the mysqldump output to sed -e 's/mytable/newtable/g' before further piping to mysql) and then run an UPDATE / DELETE / INSERT cycle with a couple of JOINs like this (untested, do a sanity check):

/* set write lock on the table so it cannot be read while updating */
LOCK TABLES mytable WRITE;

/* update all rows which are present in mytable and newtable */
UPDATE mytable AS M LEFT JOIN newtable AS N ON M.primarykey = N.primarykey 
SET M.column1=N.column1, M.column2=N.column2 [...]
WHERE N.primarykey Is Not NULL;

/* delete all rows from mytable which are no longer present in newtable */
DELETE M FROM mytable AS M LEFT JOIN newtable AS N on M.primarykey = N.primarykey 
WHERE N.primarykey Is NULL;

/* insert new rows from newtable */
INSERT INTO mytable (primarykey, column1, column2, [...]) 
SELECT (N.primarykey, N.column1, N.column2, [...]) FROM mytable AS M 
RIGHT JOIN newtable AS N ON M.primarykey=N.primarykey WHERE M.primarykey Is NULL

/* release lock */
UNLOCK TABLES;

Note: of course, your database's data would be inconsistent while you are inserting/updating its data, but as long as you are not using transactions (not available for MyISAM tables), this would be the case no matter what you do - dropping and recreating the table would create temporary inconsistencies just as doing the update/delete/insert cycle would. This is due to the very nature of a non-atomic transactionless design of MyISAM.

It sounds like you want something like rubyrep which can sync left or right and is configurable for what type of stuff you want synced either way. However I think it is database level and not table level. It might be a good starting point for modification into table-based sync.

Another option would be to use REPLACE INTO instead of dropping the table as shown in http://codeinthehole.com/writing/how-to-sync-a-mysql-table-between-two-remote-databases/

It sounds like you might not have access to the logs or I'd suggest getting commands out of the binary log.

Have you tried using Triggers?

DELIMITER $$
CREATE TRIGGER sync_table1_insert
AFTER INSERT ON `table1` FOR EACH ROW
BEGIN
    INSERT INTO table2 (id, value) VALUES (NEW.id, NEW.value);
END;
$$
DELIMITER ;

DELIMITER $$
CREATE TRIGGER sync_table1_update
AFTER UPDATE ON `table1` FOR EACH ROW
BEGIN
    UPDATE table2 SET value = NEW.value WHERE id = NEW.id;
END;
$$
DELIMITER ;

DELIMITER $$
CREATE TRIGGER sync_table1_delete
AFTER DELETE ON `table1` FOR EACH ROW
BEGIN
    DELETE FROM table2 WHERE id = OLD.id;
END;
$$
DELIMITER ;